How do you define honesty?

How do you define honesty? I am in the middle of reading "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew". It is a hard read for many reasons. First, you really have to acknowledge the loss of a biological child as well as your child's birthparents. Second, you have to deal with the reality that although you are your child's "mother", your child does have another "mother", a birth mother and "father", birth father. Third, you have to deal with it! Yes, deal with it!

How honest do you plan on being with your child?

When do you plan on talking about it?

How?

Plan is there really such a word?

How are you going to address the issue of abandonment?

For me, it starts right now. Education is key. I try at every opportunity to discuss potential issues with my husband and family members. I am reading as much as I can on the subject. But even though I am preparing myself , it really scares me to think that one day I may be the target of anger from my own child for reasons that are not within my control. It scares me to think that although I will love my child with my whole being, it may not be enough....

I will tell my child the truth in an appropriate way every step of the way as he or she grows up and matures.

For in truth and honesty lies trust.

But first I have to be honest with myself. I guess this is a great time to whip out that journal I said I would start writing in over a year ago. I have so many things to tell my little one. Where will I begin?

Have you started to think about it?

What are you doing?

How will you define honesty?